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Books I read 2017 – Part 3. Spirituality, Fun, Politics

This is part 3 of my book summaries, the introduction paragraph is repeated.  If you are interested in relationships and learning here is part 1, and Psychology and Management in part 2. This year I read 79 or so books.  Also … Continue reading

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why don’t people communicate?

I’m struggling with my partner, he doesn’t communicate. I tell him I need to understand what is going on for him but he doesn’t seem to be able to get it out and across to me.  I don’t know if … Continue reading

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I’m going to help you quit Facebook with some science

I was a serial Facebook addict.  I used to spend 2+ hours a day on Facebook, most days.  Until I worked out how to change my mind. Let’s talk about the news feed.  We all have this feeling that the … Continue reading

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Basic model of Sending a Message (Communication 101)

My hope in writing this out is that you go “well duh!  Of course” and then pretend like you knew this all already.  Whether or not you did is up to you. With communication there is going to be a … Continue reading

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No Offence, no defence.

On the case of saying the phrase, “no offence” followed by a statement that may or may not cause offence. Should you use the phrase? Should you avoid the phrase? Is the phrase misleading? For what purpose might one misuse … Continue reading

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Relationships, Emotional bids and Attachment styles

Emotional bids A husband and wife are at the breakfast table. The wife looks out the window and says, “oh what a pretty bird”. The husband looks in the paper and says, “looks like there is a town meeting on … Continue reading

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Draining friends

Some friends can be draining.  When you think about spending time with them you recall being made to feel tired.  Maybe they always bring you down.  They say things that make you feel frustrated.  They sound like a broken record … Continue reading

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A novel model of ADHD. Some self reported experiences and a comparison of motivation, flow, and more.

Imagine your mind is a big whiteboard.  All the things you want to do are on the board. By the end of a day the whiteboard is full of the things you thought about. Things you ran out of time … Continue reading

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Two kinds of Agency

Let’s talk about agency.  This week I read Transform Your Self, as reviewed by Kaj Sotala in How I found and fixed the root problems behind my depression and anxiety after 20 years. Transform your self explains that we each carry identities, self … Continue reading

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Complainy and Explainy voice

To my dear friend, I value you more than you know.  I want to share this because it’s so very important to me that you grow.  I want you to become a better person.  I don’t see the bad.  I … Continue reading

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