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Category Archives: communication
She wasn’t respecting me. Or at least, that’s what I was telling myself. And I was pretty upset. What kind of person was too busy to text back a short reply? I know she’s a friendly person because just a … Continue reading
Following on from: Concrete instructions One of the underlying concepts of NVC (Non Judgemental communication) is to speak from your own perspective. There is a very powerful instance of being able to ask for clarifications. “I am confused” instead of “you … Continue reading
The Concrete Instruction Model This post underpins other posts but may be particularly raw on it’s own. It’s potentially really dumb and obvious but leads to other important skills later. What I want you to do is to describe an … Continue reading
In applicable advice, I talk about taking advice carefully, and only when you know why it works, to apply it in purposefully. There is a specific type of behaviour that can be changed, adapted, challenged and improved. Some examples include: … Continue reading
I was talking to a lady in her 60s who was losing weight, and exercising. She said to me; “All my life, my husband was an iron man. I felt terribly embarrassed, like everyone in the room was looking at … Continue reading
We learn’t yesterday about what is a problem? I want to talk about one specific aspect of the barrier. The part of the barrier that is inside your head. The one that makes excuses. The barrier inside my own head. … Continue reading
I finally set this up! https://bearlamp.youcanbook.me/ I think I would still prefer that you get in touch with me to plan something, but in lieu of that I am provisioning for my future where I need to book people like … Continue reading
L’appel du vide – The call of the void. When you are standing on the balcony of a tall building, looking down at the ground and on some track your brain says “what would it feel like to jump”. When … Continue reading
Hedging. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedge_%28linguistics%29 Examples: Men are evil All men are evil Some men are evil most men are evil many men are evil I think men are evil I think all men are evil I think some men are evil I … Continue reading